One lesson for every semester of your high school career.
It is tough being a girl in high school. You’re trying to establish who you are and what you stand for. It is a time of growth and discovery that no matter how you experience it, you will never forget it. So here are some things I learned throughout the years:
- Boys should not be a main priority.
The first day of high school, I walked in to the first day of the rest of my life and what is the first thing you think I notice? The boys. They’re everywhere. However, I quickly noticed that it’s just not worth it. It took some time, but I have learned: there is no need to constantly be worrying about “needing” a boyfriend. You are so young. There are more important and far greater things in life than dating the boy on the football team (to quote tswift). Four years from now, what is going to matter more: your GPA or some stupid boy you cried over?
I am not saying that boys are a bad idea… just issue caution in this area of life.
2. Friends are important.
Friends will get you through the years without going completely insane, but you have to remember that they, like all human beings, are flawed and will let you down from time to time. Forgiveness is key, but…
3. Yes there are such things as horrible friends.
If someone makes you feel like crap on a constant basis, drop them. Keep those close to you who build you up, encourage you, and are never worried that you will be better than them. Filter out the negativity. You do not need that in your life especially during your high school years.
4. It’s okay to let yourself have fun.
If you get invited to a New Year’s Eve party, birthday party, or even to lunch, GO. It is perfectly okay to take a break from the hustle and bustle of high school to make some memories. So, go to sonic with your best friend at midnight, go to every football game, and when you get the chance to, dance.
5. Girls are mean.
This one doesn’t really need an explanation.
Also see number 7.
6. Be yourself.
As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. Do what you want to do, and be who you want to be. Don’t care about what everyone else thinks because at the end of the day, all you have is yourself. So, don’t waste your time trying to be someone you’re not. Play your music as loud as you want to, and don’t be afraid to dance.
7. Choose your battles wisely.
Most people are looking for a reaction from you. Don’t give in to them. Breathe in. Breathe out, and rationalize. Learn when to walk away and when to confront the situation, and be mature about it because it could cost you a friend. The tongue is a very powerful weapon, so watch what you say and how you portray it.
8. It will all be okay.
If there is one thing I have learned about high school, it is that it’s unpredictable. But in the end, somehow it always works itself out. Even when it feels like it’s the end of the world, it’s not. When you’re young, it always feels like everyone is against you, but they’re not. I promise you that it will all be okay. If there is one thing I could go back and tell to my 15-year-old self, it would be, “It’s all going to turn out just fine, so stop worrying.”
I thought they were lying when they said that high school will be the best four years of your life, but they weren’t. I would not have traded the last four years of my life for anything, and if I could go back and do it again, there is no doubt that I would do it the same. I have learned so much and established some amazing friendships that I can only hope will last forever.
So to those who still have time left, enjoy every moment and take it all in. Because high school wasn’t meant to last forever.